Accept the Other Person’s Right to Be Different

In choosing this card you are learning not to judge the other person’s journey.

We struggle to accept that our minds are ruled by judgement. We use judge-ment every day to make decisions. It helps us understand our place in the world. Judgement is designed to create separation and draw a line between ourselves and others to keep us safe. We become different from those we judge by the judgement we make of them. We judge the people we see on the news, or down the street, or their actions that have hurt us. These judgements are biased based on our background. Our perceptions are right for us but are they true or right for another person?

If your colleague or partner has lower energy levels than you do, is slower than you, achieves less than you in a comparable amount of time, rather than focus on their strengths you tend to judge them as being somehow less than you or deficient in some way. You are not able to appreciate why they were employed or the reason why you have brought them into your life. You are making a false comparison judging them on how they compare to your expectations. Your judgement expects them to be another version of yourself, which includes all the good the other person brings. But why did you invite them into your life if you didn’t want the other person’s viewpoint? Why are you judging how the other person has chosen to learn self-love?

Your judgement is a reminder that all of the experiences you perceive and understand come from an internal system of safety within you, a filter of perception that determines what is safe based on your past experiences. This perception then creates the current experience. This filtering system with all your feelings, perceptions and understanding – creates the current experience, the experience that is the only true reflection of you that exists (momentarily).

When we are upset with someone close we often criticise them as a way of creating distance. That distance is the first step to unlinking from the person and releasing them from our life. Rather than create the discomfort of emotional distancing and criticism, expand your awareness to accept that the person is different from you. Sometimes in a relationship it is difficult to let go of past wounds and disappointments. However, these past wounds and disappointments represent a doorway that reflects your difficulty asking for and receiving what you want. Sometimes this doorway is learning to say goodbye. Rather than opening this doorway, learning and applying these skills of asking and receiving what you want, you judge the other person instead. Understand that from a place of acceptance you may allow the relationship to deepen over time. Or if the doorway is to say goodbye you will give yourself permission to release them from your life.

We each travel a singular path in our quest for connection and love. In choosing this card you are not accepting another individual’s path as valid because it does not mirror your own. When you understand and accept they are different you can choose to share part of their journey by telling them how and why you are unhappy, which then has the potential to create the intimacy and connection you wish for.

Since you have invited a situation or person into your life, take the time to appreciate who they are and the gift of knowledge they bring. The gift may be simple. It may be profound. The gift they bring may be a quality you need such as understanding, safety, admiration or acceptance into your life. Perhaps they bring a professional skill or are here to teach an emotional skill that you need, such as another way of looking at life. Maybe they are present in your life to show you just how talented you are.

Or you can release them from your journey altogether. This card indicates you are learning to accept rather than judge the other person’s journey. Understanding that your judgement of the other person is just another form of you, your disappointment, lack of expectation, insecurity, not feeling good about yourself, and so on, will lead you to acceptance.

We all seek acceptance. Give the gift you really want for yourself. Step out of their way and let them learn in the way they have chosen. Don’t feel responsible if they don’t understand their path (as you understand it). Let the other person be themselves as different from you. There is freedom in acceptance. Take the opportunity to celebrate their good. In so doing you might just find they give you exactly what you wish for.