Your Judgement Means You Do Not See the Full Glory of Others
The presence of another is to allow you to feel the very substance of life – connection to all that there is.
In choosing this card you are keeping yourself distant from others. You are missing all that you have asked for in deep and meaningful relationships. You cannot see the richness within those around you, their joys, passion, the comedy and tragedy that is the beauty of a human life. A position or stance that creates separation from others (judgement) is designed to keep you safe. You are safe if you are different. In position behind your invisible lines of safety you miss out on the reason your Higher Self invited this person into your life. You have asked this person to be a part of your journey but now you cannot see them through the filter of judgements that you use to keep safe.
You judge the ‘right’ side of town, ‘right’ choices, ‘right’ schools, ‘right’ job; if you keep ‘right’ you are always ‘right’ in your judgement. You place yourself on the ‘right’ side, on the different and better side of things. You do your chores differently, you eat differently, and your way is more efficient. This superior stance acts to validate your own sense of self-worth so that you remain comfortable existing without questioning yourself. What you judge as ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ through your filter of protection keeps you safely at a distance with a clear line of separation created from your insecurity that in some way you are not enough. The news is always about the people on the other side of town because as long as you can focus on them and their ‘problems’ you can avoid and separate from your own fears and other emotional blocks. From this ‘right’ stance you hand out advice whether requested or not. In doing so you indirectly cross the line of your own boundary because you have stepped into someone else’s space. How do you separate yourself by thinking you’re opinion is so important? The truth is there is no ‘right’, ‘left’ or ‘wrong.’ It is all the same, all one direction. In your judgement you forget everyone is ‘right’ in their own mind. Behind this insecurity of ‘right’ is the same desire for everyone: connection.
When you judge, you identify where you feel connected and where you do not. Judgement is always a defensive position or stance that separates. Your mind is consumed with its own position and does not recognise the underlying energy of love that connects us all together. When you disconnect from other people through your judgement of them, you act from a dis-connected position within yourself. Through awareness you learn that your line of judgement actually links you to your boundaries. So when you judge others, for instance, the person who had the extramarital affair or the person who does not do their household chores in a manner suitable to your liking, you will see this judgement as a division, a reflection on an aspect within you that is seeking attention. Each of the aspects of self that are damaged will stop you seeing the beauty of those in front of you. You may need to set a boundary around a particular behaviour, situation or person. There is no one that you can judge without being given the gift of understanding yourself. They will only ever reflect back to you an aspect of who you are. In your judging of others ask what you are judging in yourself. In this moment of awareness you have the power to connect within to your core self and therefore to the beauty of those around you.
The presence of another is to allow you to feel the very substance of life, connection to all that there is. Fully engaging with others is the fastest route to feeling union with the Universe itself. The sum of energy becomes greater than the individual parts that we each create. Each person lets go of their individual ‘I’ component to become part of the greater whole – the collective ‘We’, and in this moment of ‘We’ they find the connection and the intimacy with self that they seek. Connect with life where you find it.
