Your Frustrations are Your Addiction
Your frustrations are the connection between the new way of being and the old way of seeing yourself. It is time to look at your frustrations for what they are – a pattern of avoidance that you are using to rebalance your core anxiety. The pattern is so successful you now use it routinely as go-to behaviour. Masked by frustration, your anxiety has managed a group of fears and emotions that you carry about yourself to the point that you are only focused – addicted – to the feeling of frustration itself – not your goal. The focus of this card is to help you identify and release the underlying anxieties that you live with.
Your frustrations are the connection between the new way of being and the old way of seeing yourself. It is time to look at your frustrations for what they are – a pattern of avoidance that you are using to rebalance your core anxiety. The pattern is so successful you now use it routinely as go-to behaviour. Masked by frustration, your anxiety has managed a group of fears and emotions that you carry about yourself to the point that you are only focused – addicted – to the feeling of frustration itself – not your goal. The focus of this card is to help you identify and release the underlying anxieties that you live with.
In choosing this card you have identified the part of you that is unchanging and ever present in everything you do. This repetitive cycle of frustrated thoughts or experiences is the addiction that will not allow you to move forward until it has been acknowledged. You are afraid to acknowledge this part of yourself, as you do not know what to do or how to change it. Lacking the skills to make a fundamental change in your interior programming you are likely to repeat this repetition until you finally make the change that your Higher Self seeks. You may be happy to make these required changes one step at a time over a long period of time and experience more frustration. Or you may be ready to make the fundamental change that your Higher Self says is required to create the goals you have set for it. The first step is to look at the power of an addictive pattern of thoughts and feelings.
In this case the feelings that create your frustrations are your addiction. You repeat this frustration in order to highlight the fundamental boundaries that are not set within you. The addiction of thoughts and feelings serves to keep you in balance. You have balanced yourself through expressing your anxiety whether spoken or through avoidance behaviours until the energy of your fears has been released from your body. Any addiction is essentially the (unconscious) rebalancing of your feelings and the thoughts that direct them. The emotions you have directed by your thoughts are powering up to give that thought and corresponding beliefs an energy that you struggle to overcome. This energy builds, producing so much stress on your body and mindset that they need to find a way to release the built-up pressure.
This card identifies for you the habitual train of thoughts and feelings that manage anxiety. You may not recognise the anxieties you carry but they are expressed through your frustrations. Any behaviour acted out of frustration, such as constantly complaining, focusing on your problems or other people as the problem, always saying ‘there’s never enough time’ or ‘I just don’t have the energy’, is designed to help you release the stress and restore balance. The stress masks the hidden fears within you, the self-doubt and the judgements that say you are not good enough, fears that you avoid. The frustrations assist you in avoiding a deeper feeling. They distract you from the core fears you experience and therefore you are unable to focus on what you wish to create. It is a cycle of the hamster running in place on a wheel with lots of movement but no forward progress being stuck in an identity shrouded by addiction.
Essentially you could think about your identity as being an addiction that is constantly reinforced by all of your experiences. Your sense of self is reaffirming and confirming its own being (not good enough) by repeating what it feels about you. You are now ready to change your identity to an expression of your true self. It’s time to see behind your frustrations to face the core feelings about yourself that form your identity. Through this process you connect to Source and are able to manifest what you want.
The human brain is programmed to act on images (visualisations) and feelings. It acts on the most powerful image or feeling, or the ones it is most familiar with. It computes all of your sensory input, smell, touch, sight, sound and taste in conjunction with your feelings to assess whether you are safe. The information is also filtered through your sense of self, your identity, who you feel you are. When all of that information has been assessed you will be guided to action – that is, safe action. At the moment you don’t relate to the image of the dream you are trying to create because it is judged not safe for you. You think you relate to the dream but deep down it doesn’t match the image you have of yourself. Your addictive anxieties are keeping you safe. Whatever your goal is, you have not yet connected to the corresponding feelings necessary to power that dream into a reality.
Visualisation includes feelings. Understanding how to manifest will allow you to train your brain to act in accordance with your wishes. The mismatch between your dream and what you have experienced has occurred because there is a difference between what you want to feel and what you actually do feel about yourself. So you want to feel successful or stand out in some way – maybe be a successful producer or actor or surgeon – but in the background overpowering that feeling is a desire to stay safe. Your brain will simply help you create what you feel more strongly (to keep safe), which is in contrast to your dream.
The result is frustration. There is a gap between what you experience right now and what you wish to experience in realising your dream. This gap is made up of the compensatory behaviours that disconnect you from your hidden feelings. If you avoid the feeling of shame then each of your frustra-tions/addictions helps you keep your shame at a safe distance. For instance when you don’t get the raise you feel you deserve at work you compensate by reinforcing your victim mindset. You get everyone around you to take your side, to tell you how unfair your boss is being, to reinforce the injustice of your situation. In doing this you evade your core feeling of shame and you get to feel ‘right’, justified in feeling the world is against you. You lose sight of your goals, of your core, of your Source. And so in your process of manifestation every experience that you create will have the element of shame hidden behind it.
To change the bundle of these addictive thoughts and feelings that comprise your mindset, you must find the doorway that will allow you to face the hidden anxiety which now compromises your ability to feel whole, safe, and in flow. The first step to your inner self is awareness. Think quite simply about what you know to be true about your current self. Are you a people pleaser, a whiner, a daydreamer, clever and absent-minded, all knowing, the cheerleader always happy and smiley, or the grouch, content in your isolation? When you tap into the root of this identity all the repetitive thoughts come to you instantly – ‘Oh – I got it wrong or said the wrong thing – Everyone always blames me – It’s not my fault – I wish I had said no – I just love that and have to have it’.
You are now being asked to change the rules that form your sense of self. To release the compensatory behaviours (addictions) look to your frustra-tions. They are the connection between the new way of being and the old way of seeing yourself. They are telling you that you have changed. You no longer see yourself in the same way and need support to make the changes. In fact, your frustrations are the messenger from your Higher Self telling you that you are ready for the dream you seek. Celebrate as you allow yourself to feel really good about who you are and the path you are on.
