This Person Likes to Be in Control; So Do You!
You (and/or someone else) are trying to stay in control and this is slowing you down. Your Higher Self wishes to help you move forward, however, your emotional self has its foot firmly on the brakes and is only moving in first gear. Look at what holds you in the slow lane when you have asked for and are ready for so much more. You are on the threshold of a new dawn, a new door is opening and the brake must be released.
Think about your life as a journey along a major highway and the goal of that journey is flow. Flow occurs when you have fully understood the rules of the road and your car – which is you and the boundaries that represent you. You acknowledge, accept and implement what you think and feel at your core. At the moment you are either still in driving school where you allow someone else – your driving instructor (parents, boss) – to keep their foot on the brakes of your car or you are operating with a learner’s permit, uncertain of the rules and your ability to drive your machinery safely within those rules. You have been in training, developing the skills necessary to navigate the highway of life under all conditions – wet, dry, icy, heavy traffic, etc. In choosing this card you are ready to move into the flow of traffic at the right speed for your journey.
If you feel overwhelmed by circumstances, responsibility for children, finances, career, business, or dealing with a difficult person, you are very likely masking the inner child, the parts of you that are like that young driver – fearfully holding your foot on the brake – controlling your speed – driving in first gear – afraid that you’re going to crash.
Essentially control is about speed. Controlling the speed of your journey keeps you moving at a rate and pace that is comfortable for you. It sets the boundary for your safety. This boundary is your emotional threshold beyond which you feel you will crash. Controlling your speed manages your fear of loss. To take your foot off the brake and accelerate, think of your heart as the engine that is fuelled by love. Your ability to accelerate is based on the answer to a fundamental question you are asking, ‘Am I loved or not?’ The answer will determine whether you open or close the connection (fuel line) to what is in front of you. If the answer is ‘yes’ you will engage the engine of your heart and accelerate into the flow of your life to fully immerse yourself into each experience. When your answer is ‘no’ you will keep your foot on the brake to control your experience and avoid your core fear – that internal place where you most struggle to feel love. Your real control then – over the speed of your journey – is based on the amount of love you allow to flow to and from your heart. Unclogging the fear of what you perceive will hurt you, clearing and lifting any fears of connection, facing that fear will enable you to pass through the doorway and will give your heart the fuel of love it needs to flow. This is the goal of this card.
An open fuel line for love to reach your heart provides a fundamental connection to your core, a connection that feels warm and protected. The heart opens to full throttle. This connection is dependent on the boundaries you wish to set for yourself and others. Setting boundaries builds your emotional capacity to manage and move beyond the thoughts that create and reinforce your fear; boundaries protect your heart. Once you recognise the core fears that create your limitations you will have no need to be controlled by your fear of the journey ahead or by the speed of others.
Consciously or unconsciously you have asked to go on this journey where everything that is not of love will arise (whether through family conflicts, blocks in your career, self-doubts, self-image, etc.) Also, you have chosen others on your journey specifically to highlight aspects of you that are ready to change. Rather than limit what you do based on your current threshold made up of old programming, feelings and thoughts you have about your ability to cope emotionally, you are learning to enjoy the ride and take your foot off the brake by extending your definition of love, by seeing all circum-stances not as a reflection of external sources of love but connected to your core source of love. You recognise where the emotional threshold has been set and are extending beyond its current fears.
For instance, if you start a project that involves others and then find that your path is slowed down by their abilities or focus, you may feel they are in control of your speed. Identify and set the boundary in order to create the change you desire, a change that will allow more love to flow. Correspondingly, you may be controlling the speed of the journey, moving very cautiously because you have yet to set your boundaries with each of the other participants and your fear of being hurt disrupts the flow of love. Look where you or others are currently slowing your momentum forward. Your current speed reflects an aspect of your inner core – your current boundary set by the inner child.
Often when we are presented with new opportunities that ask us to learn to love ourselves, to learn that there is love that surrounds us at all times (flow), the emotional threshold of the child keeps the first gear firmly in place until the child fully understands the experience. It is the inner child who says you have reached my capacity to understand and in confusion shuts down. It is the child within that says I am tired, or wishes to sleep until it has processed all that is required in order to feel safe. Consider where your inner child is controlling the speed of your journey.
The key to your freedom from fear is to understand that as a driver you can only control the car you drive, not other cars or drivers on the road. Safety comes from confidence in your own vehicle and knowing it well – not reaching out across the road to take control of another car or letting someone else reach over and take control of the wheel of your car. If you are confronted with someone who is controlling or out of control, look to the person as a reflection of you showing up in the mirror to understand what you fear. How you view your situation or how you hear another person will change once you feel connected to your true values and beliefs. You are then connected to Source and to what makes you feel love for yourself and others. You will be able to manage your feelings and help release the hidden fears that have controlled you.
Decide now that you are safe and ready to open your heart. Look at the magic that it will bring. You have your license to drive. Accelerate and enjoy the ease and flow as you ride the highway of your choosing.
