The Person in Your Life is a Mirror of Your Fears
This card asks you to look at the perspective and filter through which you look at the world around you. Your specific way of looking at the world is composed of childhood fears.
In choosing this card you see the world through the evidence of past events and are driven by a self-image that is constantly comparing itself to others. This filter is the sum of all your old fears and is used to gauge each new situation to ensure your safety. You consider this viewpoint to be the normal way of looking at the world and are currently being asked to see beyond it. You have grown and matured past your childhood fears. Your filter no longer represents who you are today and it is time to release this old way of looking at the world. You are ready for the new filter, which is a reflection of who you truly are – a loving, peaceful you.
To identify your filter of fear look at the people around you that you find challenging or confronting. However different each person may be, they share something in common and this common element is their gift to you. If you are willing to examine each person closely you will discover a nugget of gold awaits you. This gold is revealed when you identify how each person makes you feel. Look at the way they behave towards themselves or others to identify the aspects within their approach to life that you find challenging. The feelings that you experience with these individuals contain one face of your fear. Observe what you judge about each of them and identify the one thing you feel they should do to ‘change’ or the one thing you want to change in yourself in response to them. This thought should pop up easily enough as it is something you think about frequently. You are now looking at yourself in the mirror. What you recognise in them you recognise in yourself.
As you face the mirror, see the fear in your reflection. Connect to this part of yourself and own it. Remember the mirror doesn’t cover all aspects of self, only the area you are focused on. These areas tend to be aspects from the childhood mindset, the parts of you that you do not feel confident about or connected to. You are comparing the current situation against this old mindset filled with your childhood experiences as a way to order your world and gauge your safety. So how the person makes you feel shines a spotlight directly back onto these fears deep within you.
You may see this fear when you compare yourself to others. For instance, if one of the people you find confronting and challenging is a high-flying type-A achiever, the fear you see in your mirror could be related to your own sense of failure, to not measuring up, never being successful or able to set boundaries. A second example of your fear showing up in the mirror is when you stand in judgement of another person, let’s say for not being very good at their job. The judgement you levy may be highlighting your own fears around your own competency, value or being enough. Sometimes when you face the mirror the fear is elusive. For instance, when you are about to embark on a new business relationship or someone asks you to do something, you immediately have reservations about moving forward. A red flag goes up but you aren’t sure why. A part of you knows the reason but it remains hidden from your awareness. This avoidance creates a discomfort that you have difficulty identifying or are unwilling to own. Buried within the discomfort is a fear that you associate with this person or the task they’ve asked you to do. Use the mirror to reveal your viewpoint of fear and guide you.
Once you’ve seen your fears through the reflection of others, compare that viewpoint to your childhood experiences and fears. Find the alignment, the point of contact between your current and past experiences. Who does this person bring to mind from your past – a mother, father, brother, ath-letic coach? When you experience the pressure to get things done or to do everything perfectly, or even when you pursue your positive qualities to be perfectly dressed, striving for excellence, the desire to have the perfect home, to be caring and responsible for others, understand that these are all linked to your inner child’s experiences and filtered through their desire to create safety, to avoid repeating the unsafe situation. Your view of the world is being projected through the eyes of your frightened child within. The mirror is the doorway to change your view of the world.
As you look in the mirror, remember you have the power to train your focus – when you look upwards you see the sky, when you look downwards you see the ground. Once you understand what is being reflected in the mirror and you act on the guidance that it gives you, you have reclaimed your power and ability to change your focus to see your strengths. Once you do this you connect to flow. In choosing this card your Higher Self is helping you identify your fears (the mirror) and release them so that you can refocus to look at your world from a different perspective; instead of seeing your world from your childhood mindset of fear, you can now see the world anew, for its beauty, from your strengths, love and lightness of being.
